Back Talking = Disrespect

Wo! I just read an article that really hit home with me. My 4 year old has some serious sass and LOVES to get me into a power struggle. And while his outbursts of back-talk are downright loud and mean, as I thought more about this with my other kids, I realized they (we) ALL have a problem! So HERE's the article. Let me know what you think. I like to get real world examples of dialogues that may take place, which this article did not provide. So will you all do something for me? Will you listen to your dialogues in your home this week and let me know what your kid said and what you said to help solve the problem? It just helps me put it into my own situation easier. I get that the child asks for permission to disagree, but I just can't hear my 4 year old saying, "So mom, I understand that you're scared about letting me walk to my friend's house alone, and I can see that you're busy washing dishes, but I just want to go play with my friend. Will you help me find a way to do that?" ..... uh.... yeah. That's not happening! That might be how I would talk to the child and I understand I should set the example in that way, but I'm kinda not seeing how a child, especially the younger ones, would sound when implementing this advice. Thanks so much. I'll check back throughout the week for your responses. ;)